“How could he/she do this to me? To us? To our children or family?”
If you have discovered that your spouse or partner has been unfaithful, you are probably agonizing over these same questions – and more. Infidelity destroys one’s sense of self. It creates a spirit of despair marked by a profound sense of rejection in which the betrayed spouse experiences symptoms not unlike those of PTSD: an inability to eat, sleep, or concentrate; obsessive thoughts about the “other man” or “other woman” and what went on with your spouse; a compulsive urge to monitor your husband or wife’s every action; a sense of self-blame, guilt, anger, sadness, and shame alternating with feelings of numbness and rage. It feels like the pain will never go away.
You are not alone. According to The Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, the percentage of men who admit to infidelity is 57%, and women are not far behind at 54%. While knowing this doesn’t ease your heartache, it does affirm the notion that maintaining a long term, committed relationship is difficult for most people.
We have helped hundreds of couples in Central Ohio heal from the pain of infidelity. Using solution-focused/strength based therapies, they will guide you through the stages of healing with specific strategies to manage the raw emotions, re-establish trust, and work through forgiveness.
Couples who have walked this restorative journey often say that while they never would have chosen this particular path to wholeness, they are now relating to one another in ways they never thought possible.
If this is your story, please call us today. We are ready to help you.